Lately there’s been the ups and downs that have been hitting a lot of people. Actually, it’s been the downs. The downs surround the various relationship break ups (downs) and it’s causing much pain and suffering.

As an outside observer I’m expected to be cynical and one that scoffs at those who’ve broken up or down; but, I will not do that. As it is my nature to observer and report upon those observations, I shall.

First off, it’s heartbreaking to all involved, sure it might seem like a one sided and it may seem heartless but that person does have a heart and thus both parties feel a pain. One feels it perhaps more (I won’t say which) due to feelings of emptiness, or feeling as they have let the other partner in the relationship down. Whatever the feelings I do believe that it comes with our human nature to crave attention or fill an emptiness.

We constantly crave attention so that we feel as though we have a purpose. Our entire purpose is centered around gaining the attention of others so that we will have some sort of personal gain. Consider the person who is trying to get rich, they must do it by gaining the attention of others in order for them to buy her/his product and thus increase her/his monetary worth.

When the attention source no longer becomes available then we will seek another (at this point I would like to define oneself as an attention source so that one my find themself, or have personal time as one then pays attention to themself) attention source. At this point in our lives (University students) we behave out of animal instinct to find a partner with whom we may spend time. Thus, deprived of a partner we will naturally seek another.

The seeking I have described above is a common phenomeon and it’s a normal phase of life. What has happenned in the last few weeks is not unique especially within the closed environment in which we interact and it certainly isn’t the last we’ve seen/heard of it.

What I am trying to say though is that rather than pouring salt on your own wounds and paying too much attention to yourself, it is probably better to find another attention source or if you so choose, institute a longer term plan whereby you sort through a set of attention sources that you feel will provide what you desire for an extended period of time.